Are We A Fit?

If you have been seeking answers on how to parent with a narcissist whilst preserving your sanity and how to support your children, let’s see if we are a fit.

Whether you work with me or not, I want you to know, that I hear you. I have been there. I know what it’s like to explain the situation to people who don’t understand it. My hope for you is that you’ll find the best fit for you. I am going to share what I offer, and you can decide if this is the right time for you or if I am the best person.

Does What I Offer Resonate With You?

• The possibility of transforming your life from a “struggling single parent” to an “empowered thriving parent” ignites hope in you and every fibre of your being desires that outcome.

• You want to learn the proven strategies to manage everyday battles.

• You are looking for someone who could get what you are expressing verbally, but also read you intuitively because you are so tired of explaining what’s been happening in your life

• You are looking to find someone who gets the landscape of narcissism, particularly the specific challenges that come with co-parenting.

• You want to hear that it’s not you because your coach can help you see the abusive patterns in your relationship.

• You want your children to know the patterns of manipulation and for them to know how to put boundaries in place to safeguard themselves.

• You long for growth for you and your children despite the challenges in your lives.

Are You Safe?

We can’t work through immediate dangers or crises in a coaching programme

Are you or your children in immediate danger (being stalked, threatened with physical harm/sexual harm or murder etc.) from the narcissistic partner? Are you suffering from any acute mental health concerns such as suicidal thoughts that need medical attention? If the answer is yes, as much as I want to be there for you, I am not the first point of call.

If you are in immediate danger, the following resources may help

• Call Emergency Services if you are in immediate danger (999 if in the UK)

• Call the Domestic Abuse Helpline in your country (National Domestic Abuse Helpline - UK - 0808 2000 247)

• Call your doctor and have your health assessed

However, I would love to hear from you when you feel ready for a coaching programme.

Are You Open To Holistic Approaches?

Are you open to trying holistic approaches such as EFT / Matrix Reimprinting /NLP alongside Coaching and Mentoring. If you are, we are going to have a great time.

• EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique aka Tapping. Watch the video. (Research has found that EFT changes our DNA imprint and increases immunity and happiness)

• Matrix Reimprinting - This is memory engineering at a deeper subconscious level. It helps heal you from inside out at such a core level.

• NLP - Neuro Linguistic Programming. This is a tool to help you reframe your beliefs and rewire your brain.

Can You Afford It?

Would putting yourself through a coaching programme strain you financially? Do you have some money to invest in a coaching programme?

• The minimum investment is £900 for 3 months. 

• This process takes time. Payment plans are available and after the first three months, we can look into a bespoke approach that suits you.

Do You Have The Time?

Can you carve out 60-90 minutes a week to engineer your life for something better?

There are three one-hour sessions per month. After the session, it is advisable to get some rest. You will also need to carve out about 10 minutes a day to journal , EFT tapping or completing the home-work. Can you carve out this time?

Are You Comfortable With Self-Study?

The coaching programme includes the following:

• Journaling - Journal prompts will be given

• Completing some home-work - This will be decided during 1-2-1 sessions

To get the most out of the programme, the self-study aspect is crucial. Are you comfortable with that?

Can You Complete The Assessment Before An Initial Introductory Coaching Call?

• Before attending the initial call, you MUST complete the questionnaire that gets sent to you. It will take about 20-30 minutes. We will not go ahead with the call unless I have received the answers

Are we like-minded?

• Does it give you a sense of adventure to challenge cultural, religious and social conditioning that kill our children’s authenticity? Fantastic! It gives me a sense of adventure too. It’s scary, I know. Nevertheless, it’s a key aspect of raising authentic children.

• The antidote to narcissistic abuse is your connection to yourself and to your children. This means we will have to look at re-parenting ourselves. Are you open to being reflective of your own patterns of parenting?

• I am not your politically correct coach who walks on eggshells around words. My promise to you is to be compassionate and understanding with my humour.

• You may be exhausted from the adversities of your life, but you are not someone who would let the adversities define you.

• You understand the value of a child-focused approach that does not involve being overly permissible or overly suppressive. It’s ok if you haven’t figured it all out. We can do it together.

The Things I Cannot Help You With:

• I don’t have any strategies to help you win the narcissist over or change them. They don't change. They do not have the capacity to see you for who you are or see their own children as separate individuals.
• Unless there are serious safeguarding breaches, the narcissistic co-parent will have a legal right to their children. This may cause so much distress to you as a solid parent. As much as the legal system needs changing, we are not in a position to do that in a coaching session. I can help you to process trauma, help your children process their trauma, and thrive regardless.
• I can’t help you alienate your children against the narcissistic parent. The children must come to a conclusion in their own time on their relationship with the narcissistic parent.
• I can’t help you take revenge on the narcissist.
• There’s no timeline as to when the narcissist will leave you alone or leave your children alone. But, you can heal and feel indifferent about their lives and what they do.
• I will not testify in court.

Thank you for reading. I am happy to answer any questions you may have. Please drop me an email here.

If you feel like you would need more time to check how I work, you can try the following free offers.

• Work through the Starter Kit.

• Attend  Community Space events.

• Watch videos on my private Facebook Page.

Some resistance to working on ourselves is normal. However, if it feels like a tug of war, maybe it’s not the time or I am not the person.

If you feel like it’s a resounding YES and I am the right person, please book an initial consultation here.