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Are you co-parenting with a narcissistic partner or ex-partner?
You are here because you want to learn how to navigate the unique challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist. You want to preserve your sanity. You are craving to get your life back. And, you want to support your children to thrive.
They are all epic journeys. That’s a lot of responsibilities for one person.
There are court orders to co-parent and you can’t breach them. You must communicate because your children go between the houses. You want to create a peaceful transition between the two homes but your children come home with anger or withdrawal. You are willing to put the work in to make sure the process is child-focused.
But, it feels like you are climbing a mountain amidst an avalanche.
It is almost impossible to co-parent with a narcissistic partner or ex who is unable to and therefore unwilling to co-parent. Co-parenting requires two people to mutually and respectfully communicate and agree to focus on children and their well-being.
But, the narcissistic co-parent seeks narcissistic supply through various abusive ways. Narcissistic co-parent believes they are above everyone else and therefore they feel entitled to their ways. They lack emotional empathy and as a result act through rage and vindictiveness. They twist the truth and act as if they are the victim.
So, they,
counter parent
gaslight, manipulate, and lie to their children, family, and to the court system.
disobey and disregard childcare arrangements
avoid paying child maintenance or manipulate the court system to pay the minimum
emotionally abuse children in various ways
punish children to seek loyalty from them
The ways this takes a toll are endless.
Your nervous system is fried.
You are exhausted, angry, and tired of fighting a dysfunctional family court system that very rarely sees through the narcissist’s façade.
Your children act out, withdraw or develop anxiety and you are worried about them
Your children are caught up in endless guilt-tripping, lying, and manipulation and they don’t know what to do.
You are worried about your children and you want to protect them.
Some of you are fortunate enough to be surrounded by supportive family and friends.
But, some of you are going through this journey alone because the narcissists have manipulated the narrative about you.
Amidst all this, you begin to question “Am I the problem?”. After all, you have been told you are the problem by the narcissistic partner (or ex) in the relationship.
Let me reassure you.
You are not the problem.
What if there was someone who could help you,
communicate effectively with the narcissistic co-parent
empathetically listen and validate your experience
learn the patterns of abuse so you know it’s not you
write a detailed parenting plan so that you are prepared to speak with your lawyers who rarely tune into your situation
get yourself ready for the court days so that you show up grounded and prepared
effectively gather evidence so that you can present a story and leverage at court hearings
understand child protection and safeguarding so that you know what signs to look out for if your children are in immediate or potential danger
help you help your children see through the manipulative tactics and lies so that they can advocate for themselves
heal the nervous system so you are more present with your children
deepen your relationship with your children
move forward in your life to show up powerfully and authentically in your truth
I have been through it all. I cried, cursed, and sought justice aggressively. At times, I gave up because I felt so helpless. Then, I got strategic about my situation. I accepted the value of parallel parenting. I embarked on healing myself. I got deeper with my relationship with my child. And, it all changed from there.
I have peace at last……….
I want to share what I learned in my journey with you and help you navigate the shit storm skilfully.
I help parents who co-parent with narcissistic partners to preserve their sanity, get their life back and support their children to thrive.
I offer 1-2-1 coaching and mentoring to get strategic about your co-parenting, combined with holistic approaches to heal your fried up nervous system at a deep subconscious level.
During our time together I will,
provide a safe space for you to share your experience and receive validation and empathy
help you understand abusive patterns in your environment whether it’s from the narcissistic co-parent or from other people like family, lawyers, teachers in your children’s school etc
help you untangle your confusing thoughts and get clear about how you want to parent.
help you get ready for any court hearings without fear and anxiety
mentor you on how to recognize baiting, hoovering and other manipulative tactics used by the narcissist
help you decode their abusive communication so that you know how to reply
help you to teach your children how to understand manipulation so that your children are aware when it happens to them
mentor you on safeguarding and child protection so you know exactly what to do when there are serious concerns.
help you to support your children un-gaslight from constant manipulation and gaslighting
heal your nervous system somatically. So, that you imprint positive beliefs about you
The real work happens during our calls as well as between our calls. Each call is powerful followed by important, meaty, challenging next steps for you to take. We will get down into the nitty-gritty details of how to get where you need to go, but I can’t help you unless you’re in motion. Don’t worry, I will support you every step of the way to course-correct and refine what you’re doing so it works.
What You Can Expect:
Twice-monthly calls with me to work on the nuts and bolts of parenting with a narcissist, healing from narcissistic abuse, and getting deeper into your relationship with your children. I am here to help you heal your nervous system, brainstorm with you and generally be a thinking partner for you whilst you navigate the shit storm.
There is a minimum commitment of 3 months but once that’s over, you can stay with me as long as you like or you can cancel any time. For the logistics and price tag see below and if on-going 1:1 support isn’t what you need, consider some of my other offerings here.
THE LOGISTICS:
- Two 60-minute sessions per month
- Spot-coaching for emergencies (this is where we might hop on for 20 minutes to troubleshoot between sessions e.g. how to decode and respond to an abusive text etc.)
- Minimum commitment of 3 months (so we can get some traction from your efforts!).
£300 a month
I currently have openings for 1:1 coaching.
To apply for one of these spots click the button below to complete a short form.
Once recieved, if it looks like we might be a fit, I’ll be in touch to set up a conversation to discuss what working together might look like.
